Tuesday, December 9, 2014

The last of the Wild


I watch geese flap into a bouncing line then fade into black dots behind the edge of the horizon. I delight in the dance of the clouds. I gently mirror the rhythm of the water as it carries tree debris down river. I feel the wind and watch while it bullies the grass, puppets the leaves and seduces strands from beneath my pinched metal hair pins.

I want land, but I can't afford to buy it from the government who pretends to own it with their taxes and town halls. Even if I could, I don't want to buy it, but borrow it like a library book, returning it after my proper turn. I would learn to cultivate a small piece of it, but mostly I'd just like to exist within it.  

I climb out of the car. I hear the cries of coyotes. Do they sing for the storm of snow drifts the forecasters have foretold? Do they yelp for a kill? Are they serenading the glow of our slivered cratered moon? I wait, my boots perched on frozen dirt, wondering if they are weeping at the industrial hum of man's machines. CRYING OUT to break the already shattered silence.

I pull the laces of my snow boots into tight bowed knots over my folded pants, then snap my long navy blue coat from my knees to my neck. I leash my wolf-mate, slip my fingers into my mismatched mittens and walk into the sideways snowy sleet. She dives for tiny rock caves and stick pile tunnels where critters might be hiding or hibernating, her snout wet and white, her eyes wild with an explorer's lust. We climb, crunch and then together we run. She is my sled dog, though I am without sled. She pulls and my feet become light and slick as wooden slats.


Tuesday, September 16, 2014

As I stand on the grass and look down river, I want to drink the pink wash sky -stretch wide my wet lips and gulp. 

Monday, September 8, 2014

A stubborn latch


The movie is sold out and we've already had supper and a beer and bowl of peanuts from our old favorite bar. So we drive to college, which is now right down the road, past where the old filthy fraternities are now pretty green meadows. The door to our old theater department is accidentally open, a stubborn latch. Inside, photographs of me are on the walls in glass cases: artifacts of my glory days of lit stages. I feel old and somewhat wise, while simultaneously feeling like the fat football jock who lingers beside the rusty rickety bleachers hoping someone might recognize his name from an old trophy or his face from a framed newspaper clipping.  There I was, happy. Life was easy back then, back when I thought it was hard. 

Fly With Me




I have been swallowed by the excitement and isolation of inspiration -a craft project for my new classroom. He is at the desk in our little lofted office, very cross from his computer game losses. And as the night nears, the dog needs to run, pee and probably poop.

"Can we all go outside now?" He asks me, standing beside the kitchen table where double-sided tape and felt scraps pile in heaping hills of brown, green, blue and gold. The fresh air from earlier has leaked from his lungs and the stains on his feet have gone from green to gray.

It was going to be me. I will take our gal jogging. I had offered before I cut myself into a corner with pink fabric scissors, trapped in the timelessness of building something.

Now it feels too late for organized exercise. It is nearly night and I'm hungry for supper.

We slip into sandals and shoes, grab plastic bags, the leash and our long rounded rope. Feet and paws trample the narrow cement street and step onto grass. At the center of this post pioneer place of farm houses, fields, a wide brown river, ancient trees, and a red tent of sunflowers in mason jars for sale, "The Commons" as they are commonly called can be run through with naked soles.

The grass clippings clump into soft tufts, which fly and fall as we sprint like children. I have the dog on her leash and for added length, our long rope, its slack slung from shoulder to hip. I still wear my skirt from work. I don't care. We run. Penny pulls to catch Scott who sprints ahead of us with his long legs. With every jostling flight-like step, laughter escapes my lungs with this purified air and all the stress I have been hoarding in the pit of my belly.

I want more spontaneous play in my life. I don't always need to be corseted in cotton sports bras, pressed into spandex, or laced up into sneakers with socks. Life is too short to not kick off my shoes and run as fast as I can.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

aLone

Melancholia camouflages itself in the blackness of my coffee, which I have crawled back to like the left-behind lonely lover I am. I submit to the cup because the cup throws uppercuts to the corners of my mouth every morning. Wake up! Smile! Say something to someone! Her knuckles whistle while my thoughts hop toward a disorderly hope. 

My mate left me for Massachusetts. Seventeen days he is away. 

I walk the dog. I unroll my yoga mat and stretch into Indian poses. I play guitar and pencil meaningless feelings into notebooks. I write lists to trick myself into feeling busy. I bake batches of rolls, cutting them open and patting their floury cotton insides with peanut butter and strawberries or butter cream and sliced tomatoes. I cycle the streets of the north side of the city, book shopping, grocery grazing, lake front exploring. I have this idea to bike to the ferris wheels downtown and ride it by myself, but when I get there the lines are long and there is a sign that says I can't complain if they sit me in a carriage with strangers. So I go home, wishing my people were here. 

Mom arrives on a Sunday to stay with me. I had told her no thank you many times. "Please don't spend your money. I'm about to live near you again." I say. 

I will spend my time writing. I have already decided. I won't be lonely; I have the internet. Such flagrant ignorance I am now embarrassed to say. 

My sister asks me to invite Mom. She really wants to come visit, she tells me, which makes me realize how much I really want her to come visit. 

I call her.

"Hi Rachel!"

"Hi Momma!"

"Are you sure you don't want me to come?" She asks.

"I do! Please come." I say, embraced suddenly by a sense of relief for the future structure in my summer. 

"Oh good!" She says, thrusting the portable phone to Dad whom I speak with for approximately three minutes before we hear, "I got tickets! I had enough points so I don't even have to pay!" 

Scott leaves with his sister in the wee hours of a Wednesday in July. When I wake up alone the next morning, my days stand on top of me, one foot is on my chest and the other is like lead on my soft belly, shouting for submission. The skin on my face expresses my inner turmoil with a spread of new pimples....because my introvert personality isn't enough to make my living alone more difficult...I need some ugly pink lumps on my cheeks to keep me honest and home alone as well. 

One night, I drink two jam jars of red wine. I voluntarily watch a violent television show, my eyes on the windows much more than the screen. Later I dance around our small living space while Janis Joplin's rasping cries reverberate through my sad drunken soul. How strange it is to listen to strangers singing, to the recordings of the dead? A bad ballerina I sloppily spin, slamming my elbow into a kitchen cabinet. I don't mean to sound like a sorry mess. This is how I cope with lonesomeness. I thought I could be like an old poet with my quiet observations. But my sentences are starting to resemble the ramblings of an illusive hermit. I don't want to be a hermit. I don't think a long beard would suit me. I speak to the cashier, the barista and the other dog owners at the park. The telephone helps a little, but it feels more like a tease. And the internet, it seems, is a mirage and a magic trick, leaving me with feelings of complete isolation and sorrow.    

After twelve days alone, I am so grateful for my mother's arrival. When I see her surrounded by airport architecture and unfamiliar travelers, my despair disappears. I make her salad for lunch and together we cook salmon and sauté zucchini for supper. We go to the movies and buy wine and watermelon at a grocery store. During our first two days together, I have so much to say it is like the spilling of my mobbed mind.  

I am a social creature. I have not evolved away from this truth. 

Three bottles of chardonnay, one chocolate bar, two salmon fillets, homemade bread, two small cups of gelato, 22 episodes of Frasier, a full French press of coarsely ground Mexican coffee beans every morning, her walking-loafers, the Art Institute of Chicago, fine Italian cuisine and a sweaty walk to share some sushi where I cannot stop cackling at her attempt to pinch seaweed salad with chopsticks. 

I make most of our meals. To compliment and thank me, she tells me to open a Bed and Breakfast. 

"I'm telling you, Rachey, bed and breakfast...Can Scotty clean? He can clean the rooms and you can bake." 

"Maybe when we're old." I say as I sit beside her.

I am moving home to Massachusetts. She's glad and so am I. She can say it now that it's really happening. I lean on her while we sit on the couch. I put my arm around her while we mosey down sidewalks. We are both delighted that I am no longer vegan. I make little breakfast sandwiches with tomato, cheddar cheese, lettuce, free-range hen eggs, poached with runny yellow yolks on my homemade toast. Butter on bread, feta over salad greens, chicken sausage grilled and cut, it is more than the flavor of this nosh, more than the tradition of such nutriment, I am just so happy to share supper again...without the pressured smiles to please me when I would create elaborate vegan feasts to impress my meat-eating clan. I have abandoned the rhetoric of diet books and look now to eat as organic, as simply and with as little stress as possible. I want food of old generations. Vegetables. Fruit. Bread. Nuts. Meat. Milk. Eggs. 

The third bottle of wine we share is impromptu. It is her last night with me and we shouldn't stay home, we decide. 

"Let's go get a glass of wine." She suggests as the credits conclude another 23-minute sitcom episode. We put on shoes and adjust our hair. Earlier, I had been crying on account of an encroaching anxiety swirling in my belly like a flock of birds before a storm. After my shower, when I open my mouth to speak, I sob instead. 

We walk to a nearby square and read menus from glass cases. "Look, they have a patio." I say pointing to a chalkboard. 

Inside, we are greeted at a tall dark wooden bar. A man, the manager I presume, leads us to a hidden garden with a fig tree and red flowers. We sit at a turquoise table. A young man with black eyebrows carries us curvaceous glasses of water, cloth napkins swaddling silverware and two small porcelain plates.  

"Wednesdays are half-priced bottle of wine night with the purchase of two entries." The blond waitress tells us. Also, their pasta and cheese are made in house. This settles our evening (as if sitting on my couch has any chance of winning our affections after this proposal.) It is early and we're the only patrons on the patio so we lean back talking and laughing at ourselves for sharing more chardonnay. When others arrive, I lean my collarbones against the table's metal edge and we sip, saying secrets and old stories. Slowly, we serve ourselves from our salad of heirloom tomatoes, soft mozzarella, olive oil and one sharp basil leaf. Next, the spinach ricotta tortelli arrives. I spoon the folded brown buttered dough onto our plates. I press the pasta to the roof of my mouth where it dissolves into the ingredients of Italy. The crispy cod is carried to us then, one fillet with capers and kale for her and one for me. Grilled bread with herb butter and marinated red pepper spread, cold white wine and something beautiful called Pistacchio Praline Semifreddo, which our young gentleman helper tops with one frothy shot of espresso. We are spoiled and stuffed and now sleepy and silly. All hail love! She is my Queen of Hearts. 

I hold the brick walls of the buildings as we walk to the gate on the sidewalk. Our tipsy giggles cause us to meander all the way home. She could stay until Saturday, she reminds me, concerned for my likelihood of loneliness. 

"No that's ok." I tell her. "I'll clean, shop and bake. I can do it. Scott will be here Saturday." 

I awake at 2am and begin thinking horrible thoughts. I go to the kitchen and eat a little roll with peanut butter. I pee and drink water and return to bed. Then I lie awake while my imagination plays picture shows of the generic tragedies of travelers: hijacking terrorists, engine failures, leaking gas tanks. In the blue light of the night, I look over at my mother sleeping. I stare at her high cheekbones which wear her soft pale skin so well when suddenly she opens her eyes and looks at me. 

"I'm having trouble falling back asleep." I tell her like a child.

"All that binge drinking." She says before closing her eyes and rolling over. 

This gets me thinking about a whole new problem. Am I back-peddling? I know I left the fruit cult to rejoin my tribe, but have I gone from extreme to extreme? Oh relax and enjoy your life, I tell myself before sleeping until sunrise. 

While she packs her pink bag, I tell her why I couldn't sleep. 

"Oh no, did you plan my funeral? I always plan the funeral." She says.

"No, but I was thinking about how if you died, I would kill myself." Since she is visiting me, I explain. I don't know why I tell her this. 

"Oh dear."

"So don't die. Please." I say.

We are nervous travelers, walking through the airport toward security and her terminal. Her bag is on my shoulder. She holds her boarding pass and driver's license. I don't cry when we hug goodbye, but I ask, "Can you let me know when you land?" She will. Usually we are the no news is good news type, however after last night's imaginative adventures, I would like to know that she's landed at Logan. 

It feels like he abandoned me, but I see now that it was me. I abandoned my people. I fell for society's seductive appeal toward digital desolation. I can just go online. I told myself. I can temporarily replace real relationships with telephone wires, video meetings, posts of pictures and email messages. This, I know now, is a dreadful oversimplification of the complexity of love. Only temporarily can I distract myself with a digital version of life. Eventually, I only yearn for the skin of my kin and the sanctuary of familial noise and the smell of a crowded stovetop. 

We say person, human or woman, but I am an animal. An intelligent animal, but one designed to work and to be with others. We once lived in packs, eventually villages, later houses with one telephone, one television and one kitchen. Nanas and Papas, Mommas and Daddys, brothers and sisters all together sharing space and supper. Now we all live separately, secluded by this civilization's renovations where privacy and independence construct walls out of state lines and philosophic differences. 
It isn't natural, this separation: separation from instinct, separation from one another. To fill the void, we build online communities of old photographs and type-written jokes. Monitored by advertisers, spell checked by droid dictionaries, we construct digital versions of ourselves. We are no longer people, but catalogues of data. Look around, everyone is addicted, lonely and scared as they stare so intently into screens. 


"I told Grandma how I thought you were born in the wrong era." My mother tells me as I wash at the kitchen sink. 

We, the careful consumers of my American generation are attempting to construct ourselves from scratch.  We want to be super human. So we stand back with our books, analyzing the society, and separating ourselves from it. We see cancer, diabetes, and obesity and afraid to find our flesh and bone categorized by medical professionals as diseased and destined toward early death, we retreat to the cookbook blogs, symptom checkers, and to essays of explanations. We fight french fries with green beans. We trade bison burgers for soy patties. We substitute wheat flour for gluten-free powder. We search for community and then classify ourselves. 
Vegan. 
Vegetarian. 
Flexitarian. 
Pescitarian. 
Paleo. 
Fruitarian. 
I am happy to free myself of labels. Currently, if anyone asks, I am a Fooditarian. I once scoured the internet for camaraderie. I traded in the history of my family for a new way of life, one with the most persuasive argument. But nature has shown itself. I thought I could outsmart my inherited digestive system, my milk grown bones, and my sensitive skin, but after two and half vegan years, my thoughtful philosophy was clobbered by the plates of my past.    

"You look healthy." My mother tells me. 

"Good! I was hoping you'd say that."  

When we return to the rustic land of Western Massachusetts, I will purchase my produce from the dirt smudged fingers of farmers, glass bottles of milk from the local dairy and eggs from nearby free-range farms. I will be home again where I belong, near my people. 

Saturday, I meet Scott at the airport train station. No more days alone. My person is here. We have two weeks to give Chicago a proper goodbye before we rent a tall truck and practice our geometry with luggage, furniture, crates and cardboard boxes. Then one August morning at 4am, we'll leave the midwest for our little apartment in the green grass of the northeast. But until then, we share cherry pie on a cafe patio, sip pints of yellow beer at the local brewery, watch matinee movies, order deep dish pizza and bicycle to the grocery store. I bake bread and we boil water for coffee. We stay up late, practicing for the formation of our future family. We walk the dog, read our books, play guitar and sing. We prepare for the great swap of our wanderlust youth for stillness.          


  


Thursday, July 3, 2014

This Omnivore's Resolve




I tie an apron around my belly, measure and mix the ingredients. Between my fingers, I squish and squash the dough, kneading and flipping the biblical food onto a floured board. 

Yeast 
Sugar 
Salt
Flour 
Warm tap water  

I am about to spend some weeks alone. I see the days already. They are stacked like the frayed, braided rungs of a rope ladder. Hold me up! I shout as I climb to Massachusetts where the arm of Cape Cod clings to the pinnacle, the faded roof shingles of east coast glory. I am moving home in August, abandoning Chicago and the idea of living anyplace but where I belong. I have a job in a little schoolhouse and it starts at the end of summer. Scott is going first, hence this foreboding loneliness. In a week, he and his sister will drive the 900 miles from here to there. He will have a job interview. Eventually he will return to say good-bye to the city and to pack a truck of our boxed up belongings. 

In a bowl, blanketed by cellophane and cloth, the dough rises, an expressive artifact.     

Nana was Italian. She hand rolled pasta and made chicken soup with lard. Papa was Irish. He gave me these blue eyes and my tendency toward wall flowery. Grandma is an English gardener who bakes dinner rolls, North Atlantic fish and thin cookie crisps. And when I write her letters, she writes me back. Grandpa is French Canadian. He digs for quahogs with his tan feet and drives his boat full throttle into every political debate set down on the dining room table, where he never refuses a cup of coffee or glass of scotch. 

An American hodgepodge, I bake my bread. 


Happily, I hop onto the nailed slats of this toboggan as it backslides toward housewifery and the history of my ancestors. For too long now, I have poised myself at the top of a metaphorical mountain, pointing fingers and sticking up my nose. 

Despite this self-inflicted separation, I am never really alone. For I come with a full stack of history books dating back to Ireland, Nova Scotia, England and Italy. In my pockets I have copper colored photographs and coal sketches, scratched polaroids and memories captured by digital film. In my pack, I have hammy down corduroys, fabric scrunchies, a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and clip-on earrings. We, my husband and I, share this life, clinging to one another like magnets of opposite poles, but we are never detached. We are descendants. And behind us, tugging at our senses like a motley arrangement of webs are the memories of our childhoods. Threaded, they shred if not reinforced. I have snipped several of these strings, pronouncing wheat to be toxic and smoked salmon to be savage, but today I turn, grasp these ties and weave the twine into patterns before reinforcing them with bungee cords. Digging one of the hooks into my heart, I play the wires like harp strings, tugging to remember recipes, scents, tastes, textures and sounds. Who was I to think I could create a new culture? Never could it amount to the one given to me. The one cultivated by stories, blood, eggs and potlucks. Culture is as complex as Grandma's Garbage Soup and as filling as Nana's nine course Christmas feast. It is warm as Mom's sticky cinnamon buns made from scratch and Pop's plugged-in skillet of tightly packed blueberry pancakes. Because even the most delicious, beautiful vegan restaurant with the friendliest of staff could never reach into my childhood and rewrite the first chapters of my memoir.  

In the corner of our little kitchen stands a big brass statue of myself. I call her Hypocrisy. Shiny and small, she stretches one of her feet into her opened mouth and with the other hand, she grasps a cornucopia of farm fresh fare. On her shoulder hangs that leather, olive-green purse she never sold, despite her previously penned plans to do so.      

For two and a half years, I have been a verbose vegan, petitioning through prose my desire for the world to quit killing beasts for boots, belts and feasts. I obsessed over documentaries, books and online communities. Scott became a vegetarian at the same time, which felt like victory. His decision somehow made mine look less crazy. I was proud of his choice to eat atypically, despite the frequency with which I pretended to pump cow utters whenever he ordered his burrito with cheese and sour cream. Now, a couple years later, we have decided to abandon vegetarianism and live again as omnivores. 

A month ago, I diagnosed myself Deficient.
I set up bottles of supplements like some kind of ragtag army unit of broad-shouldered soldiers. "Now go in there and fight this approaching anemic enemy!" I ordered, throwing them back like an opened grenade. 

"Are your teeth blue?" My sister asks a few weeks later while we are having lunch in Boston. 

"Probably. I took an iron supplement on our way here." I explain, polishing my pearly powder blues with a paper napkin. "They're made of beets!" I say before turning to my brother and whispering, "I THINK I HAVE DEFICIENCIES!" To which he shakes his head and smiles. 

Vitamins. Nobody even really knows if these isolated nutrients DO ANY GOOD! And yet here I was popping them like salty popcorn. I want food to nourish me, not some chemical compounds manufactured by industrial scientists.  


After a year and a half of veganism, my digestive health started to decline. Nearly all foods caused internal yeast infections to bloom, belly bloating balloons to inflate and the skin on my face to burst into tender pink pimples. At the time, it did not occur to me that these reactions might be due to my animal-free diet. Instead I concluded that my body was sensitive and simply doesn't digest unhealthy foods. So I went more extreme and embarked on a raw, low fat, vegan diet. I ate pounds and pounds of fruit daily and an enormous salad every night. During the first three months, I was thrilled. Look at me everybody! I found the correct way for us humans to live! I wanted to shout from the tops of lawn chairs at crowded cookouts. My skin was clear and smooth, I had lost weight, I was obnoxiously happy all the time and I had infinite energy. I never even farted! And my armpits never really sweat or smelled. I had also stopped producing earwax and boogers and I had not had a cold or flu all year. However, my hair was falling out in a silent, scary sort of way and the absence of my period alarmed me. 

After several months searching for my missing menstrual and signs of hair re-growth, I returned to the cooked vegan diet. Packing in loads of lentils, tofu and supplements, I rapidly gained the weight back and the skin on my face had a fit. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? I am eating the healthiest diet I know of. For so long, I had expected to experience the sort of health I had read about. Just wait until my family sees how healthy I am, then they'll all go vegan! (And when this didn't happen) ...Juuuuuuust be patient. Any day now I'm going to look FANTASTIC and they'll start trading in their turkey for tofu, their steak for seitan, and their mozzarella for cashew cheese. I'll save their lives and the lives of countless animals!  I'll be a hero. 

This never happened. My scheme flopped like the rag doll I began to resemble: pale, thin and too emotionally weak to stand up for myself.  

I must give my body the credit it deserves. For it has tried very hard to get my brain's approval, doing its absolute best with the plant-based diet. However, I realize now that I must return to the butcher, the fisherman and the dairy maid for a small daily portion of flesh and curd. I use these unsavory terms so that I do not become disconnected from my food. Bacon is hog bits, steak is cow slices, eggs fall from hen holes and cheese comes from the sagging udders of a cow or goat. And for whatever complex reason, of which I may never fully understand, my body needs a little of this in order to function properly. For I, an American mongrel, raised on 2% milk, steak stir frys and breaded cod, simply require it. 

"Whoooooooo's gonna die first!" 

My meat-enthusiast brother and I once sang to one another. Imbedded in this snarky tune was a strained relationship where animal arteries and tempeh stretched between us, causing us both to gag and spew disprovals at the other. Well, Patrick, I won't be ordering five-egg omelets with two sides of pork sausages, but I will ask that when I see you in August you save me a small piece of whatever animal is charring on the grill. Don't get me wrong, my dear brother, I still believe in the power of kale, cucumbers, whole grains and organic local fruit. I am not re-negging EVERYTHING. I am just saying that perhaps eating domesticated animals who are fed appropriately, not injected with hormones or antibiotics and given room to roam, is not the evil I once believed it to be. And now I would like to saw down this fence of food fights we have built up between us. Here is my cloth white napkin, I wave it high enough for you to see. 

...And while I am at it: To all you curious social acquaintances and family members spouting your "WHAT ABOUT YOUR PROTEIN?" questions at backyard barbecues and holiday hootenannies, I want to award you all with invisible I-told-you-so-Rachel trophies. Congratulations.  

I would also like to apologize to you, Mom and Dad. I'm sorry if my vegan lifestyle sounded like an implied scream---HOW COULD YOU FEED ME MURDEROUS POISON ALL MY CHILDHOOD? YOU ARE HORRIBLE <HEARTLESS <PARENTS!---<I never believed this, but realize now how my straying from the culture with which you brilliantly and delicately surrounded me with, might make you feel sadly under-appreciated and entirely misunderstood. I am so sorry.   
Orthorexia Nervosa: (noun): an obsession with eating foods that one considers healthy. A medical condition in which the sufferer systematically avoids specific foods in the belief that they are harmful.
No black coffee, no cake of any kind, no pints of beer, no sips of wine, no bread, no chocolate, no tea! I had placed myself on this narrow pedestal. I will only consume raw fruits and vegetables. No vinegar, no oil, no grains, no legumes, no nuts, no meat, no milk! Nothing cooked! Nothing baked! Nothing fried, grilled, boiled, or steamed! Why would I eat anything that isn't perfect? Caffeine is a drug! Alcohol ruins your liver! Grains make you fat! VINEGAR IS POISON! And cooking kills so much of the nutrients!
       ...To an extent, some of these claims hold a little truth. However, I realize now, when digested responsibly, the damage by any or all of these is nothing compared to the sadness of separating oneself from her place in the universe. I love coffee shop culture, cold pale ales, PIZZA PIE, peanuts and baked sweet potatoes. I like sharing appetizers, pots of soup and strawberry rhubarb pies. I love sitting around diner booths, kitchen counters and picnic tables, sharing in the old gustatory way of food and drink. Fuck festering and fretting in the isolation of extremism. Why imprison oneself for the sake of an overly intellectualized argument? Wild nature is violent. That is the raw truth. And whether one lives in Iraq, Mexico or Vermont, violence is everywhere. Birds are eating worms. Humans are hunting, fishing and farming. Children are plucking berries and trampling insect ecosystems. Cats are torturing mice. Bears are catching salmon. Bats are biting into bugs. Women are raising chickens, turkeys and hens. They are milking cows and plucking feathers and stealing eggs. They are weeding gardens, planting seeds and feeding their friends and families. Evading the culture carved by my ancestors isn't as simple as attending a dinner party with my supper in a tupperware container because irregardless of my personal philosophical preferences or even my recent reacquaintance with nutritional nostalgia, the entire makeup of my molecular being is starving for the food of my youth. 

With a small set of binoculars, Scott watches me wander in and out of idealism like a bird in a storm. Once, I briefly caught the wind and soared. But eventually my body grew tired and I pummeled into the branches of the ancient familial tree where it had always stood, no matter how far I thought I had flown. Now it embraces my beaten body, entangling my harlequin ties into the cracks of its earthy bark. I quit fidgeting for freedom and see now the scars my scissors left the last time I was here. I don't want to wander away anymore. I want to be home. With one bungee hook dug into my senses, I take the other and hammer it into the heart of my history. Here I will build my nest. Hey Momma! I'm comin' home.  


Thursday, June 26, 2014

Old Mary Rose

And so concludes my lonesome year of study: a tunnel of etchings, observations and readings. Riding the track in a rickety cart made of this little white couch and my confidence, I held pencils to steer me from lists to type written pages of research. Lecture listening translated into cursive script by warm pens held by my sweaty hand of last summer. Assistant teaching in a classroom from September until the end of May and mountains of flat whitened trees, written on and slid into plastic sleeves. I have done it. 

I weep at the end of it all in a somewhat ceremonial celebration of self. I prop an imaginary frame around my face to present my soul as it seeps from my disheveled shell. Goodbye old Mary Rose. With your big bright blue eyes and kind smile, you are a devoted mentor. I am sad to leave you. You are my living Maria Montessori, my conversational textbook, my directress. You hug me and hold my arm with your hand, while your words drag my pushy, brash tears out and onto my cheeks for your wisdom to witness. As the salty mist escapes, the heart plays its pattern, no longer clogged by a fettering fog. I hand you your rope.         

"Thank you for everything. I really loved this program." I manage to say, fanning my flushed face with my long, floppy fingers.  

I have been day-dreaming about this moment for months. When I would have my seemingly unending list of school work complete. And now it is just so. Here I am. ....But I am not free to roam, run and ramble. This is not an end nor a place to stay and rest. This is just the start line, the train station, the dock. After one year of packing, skirt shopping, list drawing, and self-study, I am prepared to embark on my odyssey into education. 


Sunday, March 2, 2014

It is from here now that I plan our life.

I lay on your side of the bed while you dance at your cousin's wedding in Florida. Tomorrow night, your family will celebrate 90 years of life for your grandfather. I'll be here in Chicago eating bananas and grapefruit, doing school work and applying for a job far from here. It snowed more today. I walked the dog in timid, apologetic snowflakes as they fell into the lumps of my knit scarf. I didn't curse the clouds, but kept my head down as I trudged over hidden ice, slush and dog shit.      

I found a house online to buy, a little yellow one. Remember that other tiny house I wanted years ago? The one with the slanting floor? Remember how we drove there and stood on squishy grass to look into the windows? I signed up for real-estate email updates. I tell you over the phone. This house was sent to me today because there was a reduction in the price this week, the same week as I'm applying for this job. Coincidence? 

You sit barefoot by the hotel swimming pool listening to my babble.  

Here in our generic urban apartment I have, like a prisoner in a cement cell, taped paper pictures from magazines, poetry pages, postcards, photographs and wedding invitations onto the white walls as if to transplant us while simultaneously cradling us in color and encouragement. It is from here now that I plan our life. I hope you don't mind. I dream of have a compost bin, a vegetable garden and a driveway. I wrote a long letter to my dream job. Then I calculated a mortgage and downpayment. I'm getting ahead of myself. I have the tendency to do that. Hope and I have a lot of fun. You're quiet. I pause. I'm embarrassed, but say how I believe everything happens for a reason. I don't know, I just believe that we're all connected with these divine moments that lead us through our lives. I don't know.   

Stop saying, I don't know. You tell me. Then you define divinity.  You say how you believe all humans are connected, but you wouldn't call it divine because divine is about something separate from humanity. It's specifically not human. 

Oh. Well, I believe that's God. That that's divine.   

On the table beside the bed, your comic books are stacked with colors like candy wrappers. My plastic glasses, flip phone and current issue of The Sun Magazine sit there too like an old man in a gray fuzzy sweater beside a teenage skateboarder on the bus. You won't read my magazines about social injustices, blue collar hardships or obscure catastrophes, just as I won't read about Spiderman scaling city walls to save a stack of pizza. And that's ok. Diversity is good. 

I no longer want to try and convert anyone to my church of fruit and vegetables. This is my culture after all and Lord knows we don't need another crusade. For you, I'll try not to speak of dead baby cows whenever you mention having cheese with your supper. I promise.  

I fear if I get this job far from here, you and your local friends will talk trash about me behind my back, which is treacherous to say because you love me entirely, my ideas included. Still I'm afraid someone might think that I am the ruiner of your life. That I'm selfish and blinded by my greed for green leaved trees, mountain dirt and farm stands. 

Were my friends mad at you when we left Boston? You ask. 

No. I don't think so. 

It's so late and my hands are dry and stiff from typing and folding laundry. I'm hungry but I don't want to eat. Slightly thirsty, but I don't want to drink. All I want is sleep. Is this why I go to bed so late when you aren't here? So that I want sleep even more than I want you beside me? So that I don't stay awake feeling alone and small in our queen size bed? Perhaps. 

Good night my dear. 

Sunday, February 2, 2014

Conversation

You tell me you never want to make a lot of money. It changes people. You say. Makes them look at the world differently. I agree but mention the stress of not paying rent on time and the dreamy thought of buying a little house somewhere in the woods. You've got something though. Well, don't worry, I tell you, that's probably what you'll get. I don't think school teachers make very much. And if you're still working in a restaurant, we probably won't be climbing any social ladders. But compared to now, we will be able to go to the farmers market every Saturday and fill the trunk with lettuce, tomatoes, berries and zucchini. We've never been big spenders. Rent, gas for the car and produce, that's where our money goes. And to your pizza slices and bean burritos. It's true, researchers say --like we heard on the radio-- that those with less money are more likely to give to others in need. We are more compassionate, they say. Able to relate and connect with others.  The rich folk might think they've worked very hard to be where they are, to have what they have and that those who have not are lazy.  Well, I just want a little house and a job. Nothing much. School work has kept me from writing the story about cutting off the tip of my finger with a mandolin slicer. Kept me from writing about how it wouldn't stop bleeding and so you looked up what to do. Cayenne Pepper is what you found and so we poured some into a glass bowl and I pressed my wound deep into the soft red grains. The pepper stuck to the sore like sand on wet feet. I stopped bleeding, but oh how I cried and cringed, swearing to keep myself from screaming. You didn't tell me it would hurt like hell. You didn't know and I didn't think to ask. I just wanted the blood to stop and pressure hadn't prevented those bluish red drops from dripping. I didn't want to go to the hospital. In the morning you bought me bandages and yourself chocolate and a lint roller from the pharmacy, while Penny and I waited outside in the wicked wind. Then we walked to the cafe and you bought a $3. cup of black coffee. I don't drink coffee. I consider myself a recovered addict in a world of junkies. At least you don't use very heavily. After the start of this year, I returned to my diet of eating only raw fruit and vegetables. I had slipped into porcelain casserole dishes of roasted squash, baked potatoes and chunky tomato soup. I feel happy again. And happy that I'm an artist. Not embarrassed anymore. I wish everyone was an artist. Not the starving kind. The artist who is also a (fill-in-the-blank) job. Because the arts are emotion and emotion is life and life is what we all have. It is what connects us to one another and to this ailing planet we call home. So yeah, we won't have much money, honey, and that's fine with me.